Rethinking Reputation: How I respond when asked a question about managing reputation
Agree entirely Rachel. Social trust is the currency of the future. My social trust and the many good people who know me in society defeated the lies of a few untrustworthy criminals who lied to authorities engaging in Darvo and blame shifting and projection when caught. 🕵️♂️🛡️
Thanks Rachel. I like this formula: "Reputation is perception, trust = belief, and trustworthiness = behaviours. What’s the foundation? What’s in our control? Yes, our trustworthiness! How we behave day in and day out."
I guess what matters most is how we behave true to our own values and beliefs and not because of others.
It’s funny that you mention Taylor Swift because that song started running through me head when I read the word reputation. Have you listened to any recent podcasts with Seth Godin recently? I’m really liking how he’s so humble about his books and emphasizes that even though he’s published 20, most of the works has no clue who he is and has never read his books. He focuses on his daily blog, turns off comments because he doesn’t want to write to be popular. He’s stopped flying for work as a result of his work on The Carbon Almanac. His efforts to be consistently aligned with his values are admirable.
The advice I find here genuinely reveals something crucial in society, the reputation: the social currency. Also, love Rachel's advice about being focused on things we can control. "Focus on your capability and character. Focus on the difference between doing things and doing the right things. Being more trustworthy is free and in our control. Reputation is not."
I'm with Marcus Aurelius on this: “Just that you do the right thing. The rest doesn’t matter. Cold or warm. Tired or well-rested. Despised or honored.”
Reputation is how others see you, which is, of course, out of your control and will depend heavily on the social environment in question.
I find it much more important to always act and do what I believe is right. I have to sleep at night. My inner peace comes first.
What others think of me is none of my business.
Trustworthiness, however, is how I "judge" others. It's the thing I care about the most: values, integrity, and trust.
Great thoughts Rachel. Thanks for sharing. Reputation is people’s perception of who you are and this is not under your control. Trustworthiness which is your behaviour based on your character is under your control and leads to people trusting or not trusting you. There’s an equation who’s constant is unity (one) and that constant is integrity. Integrity is when your character is equal to your reputation.
Robert Kennedy Jnr. He has shown consistency over his long career in trying to defend the environment and people from industrial and pharmaceutical polluters, despite horrible attacks on his reputation. It would be easy (and perhaps politically savvy) to pivot on some issues. But he stays true and that leads me to trust what he says.
What strategies can we adopt to shift from playing the "reputation game" to emphasizing trustworthiness in our actions?
The article proposes that we should focus on demonstrating trustworthiness rather than gaming the reputation system. How can individuals and organizations actively work on their trustworthiness and encourage others to do the same?
Today it’s so very easy for a criminal to spread lies and make false accusations against you. Read my families horror story and how my social trust and the truth set me free. 🕵️♂️🛡️