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Rachel Botsman's avatar

Rethink discussion qu for this week:

What’s a small action or habit where HOW you do it matters more than WHY?

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James R. Carey's avatar

In defense of Simon Sinek’s “start with why” concept, there’s a cause-and-effect relationship where “why” is the cause and “how” is the automatic effect.

Watch any five-year-old and you’re observing an expert at identify evidence and logic supporting a preferred conclusion and refuting a closer-to-the-truth inconvenient conclusion.

Watch any pair of fifth graders on opposite sides of a conflict of interest that they both want to resolve—assuming a trusting and trustworthy relationship—and you’re observing two experts at openly sharing and challenging each others’ logic until the conflict is resolved.

The “why” for people who behave the way every five-year-old knows how to act is one of the two limited interests. The “why” for people who behave the way every fifth grader knows how to act is the common interest.

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Gina's avatar

Baking!

I've been raised by a mom, baking a cake every Sunday.

During time in kindergarden and pre-school I've obviously didn't ask myself: "Why is she doing that?" - because I intuitively knew! Watching her HOW she did it, the energy in the room, whenever the baking pan and the hand mixer came out, told everything.

And so I kind of took over, also not asking for a reason or any WHY to bake (and not every Sunday, though! 😃), but as the most impatient person you can think of, I lay all my time and focus in this cake-to-be, its form, favorite bowl to whisk, setting 'the scene'...

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Rachel Botsman's avatar

I love that Gina! A baking scene and the smell are in my head...:)

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